Merry Christmas— I hope you’d enjoyed your Xmas eve dinner!
For Christmas this year I received this Santa Claus book from The Boyfriend’s Mom:
So I read it after sauna. It’s a really cute book–filled with cute gnomes drawings! And it left me wondering if Santa Claus is real.
Haven’t you wondered about it? Hmm..I am pretty sure Santa Claus means different things to people of different cultures. And honestly, Santa is a symbol for many things–nostalgia, childhood, lost time, etc. And maybe, just maybe, a non-exaggerated version of Santa might have really existed?
Yet as a marketer, I always felt that Santa Claus is definitely a fake. It is a deliberate ploy by shrewd capitalists to cheat the feelings of kids, isn’t it? Santa Claus sends presents to kids, so daddies and mummies got to pretend that they are in contact with Santa, so that kids will receive presents, because their friends receive presents. So present-giving and receiving became the norm, and people who benefit are shop owners.
It’s also funny how Japanese guys who call themselves “losers” even went on the streets to protest such an evil capitalistic phenomenon. And I quote–
“The group of about 20 people — part of the communist-inspired group that routinely protests Western holidays — marched under angry banners that read “Smash Christmas!” in Tokyo’s Shibuya district, where couples and families were engaged in holiday shopping.
The participants — mostly single men — said they were against capitalism and were opposed to the commercialization of Christmas.
“In this world, money is extracted from people in love, and happy people support capitalism,” said the head of the organization, formally called Kakumeiteki Hi-mote Domei, or the Revolutionary Losers’ League.”
Hmm…so I really started to wonder, if Santa isn’t real, why are we lying to the world that it is real?
Or should I ask: why are people allowing themselves to be lied to–that Santa is real?
I am unsure. This year, I started to seriously doubt that people want the truth at all times. In fact, I think people actually like to be deluded. So perhaps, before we start to approach people with the harsh truth, we should check if they actually want to face it.
In a sense, I think it’s way easier to be deluded. Delusion = comfort zone for some. You know, for some folks delusion can come in the form of not wanting to accept that things are going to get worse. Or perhaps, not being deluded hurts their ego, or some sort of a fall from Grace.
So instead of seeing reality for themselves, they actually get further and further away from it. It’s actually really laughable.
I used to think that it’s unethical to not tell deluded people that they are indeed deluded, even in the face of harsh facts. But now I see that delusion is a form of hope for them. It’s also a form of protection–because they’d never get the past back again. Perhaps deep down inside they know that they already lost the past for good–but people choose to be deluded because it is comforting and they don’t know what to do.
However, if you tell them that they are deluded, they will get angry and lash out at you. So I’d learnt along the way, that unless these people are close friends, it’s not a wise idea to go around telling people that they are living a lie.
In the movie The Matrix, there was a scene where you can choose either the blue pill, or the red. I always wondered why the guy chose The Truth.
The answer is because being deluded forever seriously wastes your life. It’s okay to be deluded for a while, but after some time everybody needs to snap out of this delusion and move on with life.
Facing reality takes strength. Keeping up with the rapidly changing world requires character. The conscious choice to stay deluded and mope–“Oh, we are not number 1 anymore, our most important company failed blablabla–but we will be greater than ever!” isn’t. Because that’s just sinking deeper into the delusion.
And after a while such whining can get really irritating, especially when ignorant people repeat outdated data that may be true 5 years ago, but totally baseless today.
I really feel sorry for deluded people.
So yes, there is a difference between a dream and a delusion, and the difference is the system. When you say you’re pursuing a dream, basically the success rate depends on the type of system you have put into place, and how successful the system had worked for you so far. If the system has failed you, then maybe it’s high time to change the system.
Delusion on the other hand, is living in a voodoo world, and assuming that what has NOT worked in the past would somehow magically work in the future.
Not gonna happen. =) Take nothing for granted, before the situation really gets worse. It will, by the way. Talk and hype is cheap–and makes the delusion worse.
Anyway I’m glad I don’t have to deal with this sort of nonsense anymore. 🙂