I’m honestly puzzled when people answer the above as a justification to the proposition of why a person should not be in a certain industry/place because he/she is ambitious.
The following are also variants:
- “If you are rich, you’d succeed everywhere!”
- “If you are smart, you’d succeed everywhere!”
- “If you are pretty, you’d succeed everywhere!”
I mean, don’t people see how silly these responses are to contextual arguments??
Possible initial propositions are:
- “Hmm if you are rich, maybe you should go to Singapore because taxes are lower. So that you get higher returns on investments.”
- “If you are smart, maybe you should spend time doing internship too instead of just studying academically. Because then you’d get other perspectives.”
- “If you are pretty, maybe it is a wise idea to also be hardworking, because beauty fades.”
Of course “if you are _____, you can always succeed anywhere”. The question is how fast/ how easy/ what is the return on investment/ effort.
Sometimes the er…
stupidity pseudo self-righteousness behind arguments/ responses makes me sooooooo bewildered that I really wonder why I take the time to write contextual posts if I invite such comments.
What I didn’t realise is that I should be expecting and dealing with strawman arguments in real life too, because a lot of people DO read this blog!
Then I have to deal with strawman arguments on the spot.
Oh wait, or maybe I don’t.
The thing about dealing with strawman arguments is this: You have to entertain the imaginations of the people who make those statements. It’s like dealing with their unresolved childhoods and unresolved emotional burdens behind what they imagined you said, instead of what you really said.
In fact they don’t even know what you really said.
Because the tendency to make strawman arguments hinges on the fact that articles are not read in context.
- 1–“Proposition A is bad for our community and costs taxpayers too much money.”
- 2–“So what you’re saying is we should put every citizen behind bars and make everything free?”
Seriously, whenever I hear things like that I get mildly agitated. It amazes me constantly how things are not read in the original context. Then I’d respond with “er, you do understand that the responses reveal more about you, than me, right?”
Then I started thinking of how to respond. Perhaps a really good idea in future I’d take, really, is to:
- Smile and ignore;
- Smile and walk away.
- [In work situations] PRINT out exactly what is written, and go line by line in logical argument and exact statements patiently, because I am paid to do so. Focus on that which is written, clear and verifiable instead of something that is voodoo.
In general, don’t bother and don’t waste time. Neither should you change if you do attract many good and hardworking people because of what you say.
Because why? People who make strawman responses and get all emotional about it will never collaborate or do things in line with your vision anyway.
Actually, speaking your mind online/ receiving strawman attacks might serve as a good filter too. It attracts people who thinks like you to you, and repels people who have their own unresolved burdens away from you. Because if people read this blog before they ever meet me, they can decide whether or not they agree with my views (or my views they imagined to be).
So if they attack me for such XYZ imagined views taken out of context without seeking clarifications to what I am saying, it’s really not my problem, and neither can I change anything.
Therefore, I should actually speak my mind more, not less. Because it will attract like-minded, positive go-getters like myself to me. For great brands/ personalities will always polarise. 🙂 It’s always wise to check back on verifiable facts instead of
Hmm good realisation and I shall apply it more to my life. OK off to work bye!